But this time I SWEAR it’s justified. After we moved back to Stuck-Up, I joined a large playgroup on Meetup.com. I thought it would be a good way to make friends and have Lovebug and Ironflower learn social skills. I made some acquaintances and the kiddos had some fun. I generally found it hard to socialize while chasing the kids, but I didn’t think I’d offended anyone or anything.
Tonight I got a form e-mail from the organizer saying that the group was closing, though she would be sending personal emails out for some playdates. I went over to Meetup to quit the group and then to look at the other mommy groups. I noticed that a new group with the exact same name and the exact same organizer has started up.
Is it wrong of me to be bothered by this?
I am tempted to start my own damn mommy group. But then I think, what if no one joins?
I have tried to remind myself that just because something similar happened to me in eighth grade (yeah, I’m talking to you, Kerry and Kim) it does not mean that history is repeating itself. But it’s not really working.
So I’m posting for advice. What do you think I should do? Join the new mommy group and see what happens, start my own mommy group and risk feeling even more friendless or give up on the mommy group thing.
BTW, except for that brief period in eighth grade, I have always had friends. I have had some friends for more than twenty years (not Kerry and Kim, of course). I SWEAR (again) that I am not unlikeable. Really.
I SHOULD take this post down, because I just got an email from the organizer saying that she was explaining the reason on the message board and that it had nothing to do with me and she would still love to get together. But I’ve decided to be honest and freely admit that I AM totally paranoid and now I need advice on what to do about that.
6 responses so far ↓
madamspud169 // November 17, 2007 at 6:38 pm
I’m the type of person that would have taken it personally too. It’s not that I think the world revolves around me it’s that I think anything bad that happens, happens because of me.
I wouldn’t have joined a mummy group in the first place because I just can’t make friends at those types of groups & the one time I did I ended up feeling worse & more friendless & unliked than I did before.
Starting & running a group is I imagine hard work & pretty thankless but if you have the desire & energy I’d say give it a go cos any group run by you would be one I for one would like to join.
Jerseygirl89 // November 18, 2007 at 1:55 pm
Madamspud - We both need to stop doing that!
Monkey Kisses // November 18, 2007 at 5:04 pm
I think it is completely normal to feel that way… I found a group on meetup after being part of a few, that i feel comfortable with.. I would love to find more though just because it is alot like high school.. Very catty… Especially in the state we live in
Jerseygirl89 // November 20, 2007 at 4:50 am
Monkey Kisses - It does seem worse here, doesn’t it? But I think a good group makes it all worthwhile. At least I hope so.
Leslie // November 20, 2007 at 6:35 am
I’d worry about it, too. That’s just my nature - to be paranoid and worry. I’m curious about the organizer’s explanation for ending the group.
We’ve had some playgroup drama, lately. Our “leader” has joined another group. They meet on a different day, which is no big deal, except that she quit showing up to ours. Yet, she continues to send e-mails and messages for us to discuss things in her absence and has actually vetoed our ideas about where to meet!
It can be hard to find that right combination in a group, but when you find it, it’s worth it.
baby~amore' // November 20, 2007 at 10:09 pm
I worry about this too … a few left our real life group and met up themselves.It was over something else though I thought it must be me. I guess it is our insecure nature and that we doubt ourselves. Never fear you are a woman of worth. Glad you had a happy ending.I found out they still liked me too.
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