Rather than answer you all through the comments, I’d thought I’d write another post. But first, thank you so much for your warm wishes and congratulations. I really appreciate them, especially since I’m still in shock.
Yes, this will be #3.
And no, we weren’t trying. You could even say that we were actively NOT trying. But apparently we are very, very fertile.
We had left open the possibility of having a third someday down the road, when we were more financially stable. I guess “down the road” is relative, because it feels like we’ve only gone about a block. And honestly, we really didn’t think we’d get to a point where we felt comfortable having another child. I guess it’s a good thing we’ve got 35 weeks (or so) to get used to it.
Of course we will love NewBaby and of course s/he will have clothes and such. But once again I’ll be scouring Craigslist and garage sales for baby stuff (having sold and given most of ours away already) instead of my imagined shopping sprees at BuyBuyBaby. And that’s okay. I know NewBaby won’t care.
To be honest, I’m pretty much swinging between excitement, fear (I won’t have enough hands! We don’t have enough money!) and nausea. I guess that’s normal, right?
16 responses so far ↓
Leslie // March 12, 2008 at 6:49 pm
The way you’re feeling is completely normal. I’ve spent the past 8 months freaking out about a lot of the same things. It will all work out. You’ll find a way to get everything done and be mom enough for everyone. You can do it. Luckily, children are one hell of a motivator. Just when you think you’ve got nothing left, you find you’ve got just a little more for them.
And money? Do we ever have enough? I’ve spent most of my worries on exactly that - how will we afford it all?!?!? And just when I have a plan, something would throw it all out of whack, like the furnace blowing up, and my dryer dying…but, here I am with a few weeks to go and I’ve found a way to gather up the things Lucy will need. It will come together. Anyway, your new baby already has everything a child could ever want - a family full of love.
Just take care of you and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Jill // March 12, 2008 at 8:54 pm
You’ll get by, babies don’t need much except mommy’s boobs!
My sister’s gave me alot of their baby stuff, I got so many wonderful things FOR FREE!
anglophilefootballfanatic // March 12, 2008 at 9:42 pm
Consignment sales are wonderful! And, you will manage. Your daughter will be old enough to be helpful. And, money is so relative.
HRH // March 12, 2008 at 9:53 pm
Someone will always be crying for the first year. After that things improve significantly. You may not have enough time or money, but love multiplies. The sweet interactions between siblings erases all the evil. It was meant to be. It is the way your family is meant to be. Celebrate. I am excited for you.
Thalia's Child // March 12, 2008 at 11:15 pm
I’ve got to admit, I’m a little jealous, after my near-miss this month. I don’t know if I should be admitting that thought though.
Virginia // March 12, 2008 at 11:38 pm
The first child completely changes your life. The second? Double the work. Numbers 3-6? Not that big of an impact. You’ve already gotten good at multitasking and juggling multiple children - you just don’t know it yet. Congratulations from a mom of 6.
PG // March 13, 2008 at 12:22 am
we have 4, and if you can embrace the beauty of the mayhem it’s a walk in the park. Although the jump from 2 to 3 means you have to switch from man-to-man defense to zone defense.
Merry // March 13, 2008 at 2:02 am
Congratulations!!!! Yours will be about the same age difference as mine, I think. My oldest was 4-1/2 , and my second was 2 exactly (their birthdays are 5 days apart) when I had my third… Here’s the thing, the first year it might seem a lot to get used to, because you only have two hands and they all need attention, often at the same time… but once newbaby comes, you’ll just know that your family wasn’t complete until they came - maybe that’s how it is with every baby… but I can’t imagine not having three now and there are perks, when they’re all close in age they always have playmates and they have siblings that will be their lifelong friends
Oh, someone should have warned you - murphy’s law of motherhood, give away the baby gear and you’ll be pregnant within a year… all of the infant stuff about a month before I found out I was pregnant the last time.
mkate // March 13, 2008 at 6:28 am
I miss one day or reading your blog and this is what I miss?!?!?!
Congratulations! How exciting and terrifying all at the same time! I can’t wait to read all about it on your blog!
jerseygirl89 // March 13, 2008 at 8:08 am
Leslie - You’re right. And NewBaby is starting out with two great siblings, too! I can’t believe Lucy is almost here already!
Jill - I just need to find someone getting rid of their stuff!
AFF - All of those are excellent points.
HRH - I am very excited to see the older ones with the new baby. And since someone’s usually crying now, I’ll probably be fine!
Thalia’s Child - Of course you can admit it. Heck, I’ve been jealous of all the pregnant people in the blogosphere - until it actually happened to me. I understand.
Virginia - Now I feel wimpy - SIX? You are an inspiration. And I had heard that #3 wasn’t as traumatic as the first two.
PG - Teehee, zone defense. And I like that “embrace the beauty of the mayhem”!
Merry - I think I had heard about the gear thing before, but forgot. Well, this time I will definitely hold on to it!
Ironflower will be almost 4 and Lovebug will be 2 1/2, so they will be able to be good friends.
Mkate - I like to keep it exciting, you know.
Becky // March 13, 2008 at 11:53 am
You’re describing exactly how I’ve felt with both of my babies. For us #3 isn’t out of the question, and I think we’re just gonna let nature take it’s course. I can’t fathom going back to actively TRYING (too stressful), but hey, if it happens, it happens.
Congrats again, dude.
canadianflake // March 13, 2008 at 3:02 pm
All of these feelings are COMPLETELY normal…just hang in there and take one day at a time…
Gingerale and salty potato chips always helped me with the nausea..lol.
congrats again !!!
LunaNik // March 14, 2008 at 11:16 am
Of course it’s normal!!
I would feel the same way if I were in your shoes.
Hey, now more than ever you may need to learn the art of couponing. Let me know if you would like a tutorial on the art of CVS-ing. If you start now you could build up a pretty good stock pile of FREE diapers!!
Jennifer // March 14, 2008 at 2:09 pm
Congratulations!!! I saw your ticker when I read your haiku post, so I had to scan the archives for the details!!!
silken // March 15, 2008 at 11:17 pm
congratulations!!!
Jess // March 17, 2008 at 2:08 pm
I knew it! LOL! Congratulations, Mama!!
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