Dear Christopher’s Mother,
Today we met your son and your mother-in-law at an indoor play area. Your son seems like a nice little boy and I know my kids enjoyed playing with him. I just feel that I have to apologize for calling him a little girl. And for the fact that my daughter referred to him as “she” the entire time, even after I told her that Christopher is a boy’s name.
Your son didn’t seem to mind like most three year old boys would. He barely seemed to notice . . . according to your mother-in-law, he’s quite used to it.
I’m not one of those judgmental parents. Unless your kid is mean and you don’t care, I will not judge you. Or if your preschooler’s favorite movie is Bride of Chucky. Or if you put Pepsi in your toddler’s bottle. Or. . .well, you know what I mean. I don’t judge parents who are within the realm of normal.
But I think your son’s hair has gone beyond the realm of normal. The long, golden waves are quite lovely and the bobby pins do seem to hold it out of his eyes, but doesn’t it bother you that everyone assumes he’s a girl?
I support the rights of the transgendered. I love cross-dressers and drag queens. But your mother-in-law says you’re the one who won’t cut it, not Christopher. Which indicates to me that you are not supporting Christopher’s natural urges but instead trying to feminize him for perverse reasons of your own.
What the fuck is your problem?
Sincerely,
Jerseygirl89
PS Would you be interested in a playdate at the new Cuts for Kids place?
24 responses so far ↓
Becky // August 25, 2008 at 12:44 pm |
I just cut the mullet off Alex. Sounds like he needs a date with my scissors.
feener // August 25, 2008 at 12:57 pm |
i am sorry but the what the fuck is your problem made me laugh….thank you..bobby pins ?? really .
AndreAnna // August 25, 2008 at 1:58 pm |
Any chance you were in a Hasidic Jewish area? We’re right by Lakewood, and it has a very high population. They have to wait, or choose to for some reason to cut their sons hair. I have seen boys with long hair in clips and ponytails with these families on a regular basis; I’m sure it’s part of their religion.
If this is not the case, then yes: what the fuck indeed. LOL
Jen in MI // August 25, 2008 at 2:44 pm |
Wow… very bizarre indeed.
Travis Erwin // August 25, 2008 at 3:06 pm |
Hey Fabio is getting old. Somebody is going to have to post on those romance covers in the future.
goodmum // August 25, 2008 at 4:54 pm |
Hahahaha! I love this! Are you sure it wasn’t Kate Hudson’s son, Ryder, that you saw? Sounds shockingly familiar…
Meg // August 25, 2008 at 5:24 pm |
I think you’re talking about my Ten-year old son. Now he wants his ear pierced.
Petra aka The Wise (*Young*) Mommy // August 25, 2008 at 10:00 pm |
This bothers me as well and I wonder…did she secretly wish she had a girl? I would watch out for seeing him with bows or braids, that might be next!
Kara // August 25, 2008 at 10:45 pm |
You could be easily be talking about my 4 year old. He has long curly blond hair. And while it is his choice to keep it that way, my MIL would probably tell anyone who would listen that I’m the one that chooses to keep it that way. I do put barrettes in his hair to keep it out of his eyes, but only when he’s at soccer practice (or ballet class).
It’s pretty, he likes it… and I use a it as a bargaining tool to get him in the bath tub. *shrug* Why does anyone who doesn’t personally have to deal with the maintance issues care about the length of my child’s hair?
Anglophile Football Fanatic // August 26, 2008 at 8:27 am |
That’s seriously messed up. There’s a point where you gotta cut the kid’s hair.
love2run45 // August 26, 2008 at 12:20 pm |
Do you think his mom wishes she’d had a girl?! Bobby pins!?!?!? Poor thing! Wonder how often people make fun of him?
Shamelessly Sassy // August 26, 2008 at 2:34 pm |
My husband has a relative that seriously almost forced their child into cross dressing. He is now a preteen and facing a lot of interesting things because of it. He also carries around a pink cell phone and is pretty good at fixing hair. As a youngster, his mother would only buy him Barbies and girl type toys to play with. It’s a very strange yet delicate situation.
jerseygirl89 // August 26, 2008 at 3:20 pm |
Becky – But how did Alex get a mullet? Whose idea was that? Just asking.
feener – Yep, bobby pins. The same kind I wear.
AndreAnna – Sadly, no.
Jen – I don’t know why it bothered me so much.
Travis – Fabio should never be replaced . . . he should be shot.
goodmum – Hmmm, maybe the mom is a big Kate Hudson fan?
Meg – But at least it’s his choice, right?
Petra – That’s what I wondered too. Ick.
Kara – That is a good question.
AFF – You would think so.
jerseygirl89 // August 26, 2008 at 3:21 pm |
Love2run – Nobody made fun yesterday – they just all said “she.”
Sassy – That is very weird. . although someday his shrink will probably get rich from it.
33tekfan // August 27, 2008 at 2:17 pm |
Two words: Ryder Hudson. Or whatever his last name is. Oh…and Celine Dion’s kid. What are people thinking?
WordVixen // August 27, 2008 at 6:14 pm |
Wow. Scary though, our friend says his baby mama won’t cut their oldest son’s hair either. Apparently it’s very long, thick, dark, curly hair, and she just can’t bear to see it go.
However, she at least doesn’t use bobby pins!
Jill // August 27, 2008 at 8:33 pm |
I’ve noticed the boy’s with long hair trend in my area lately. I don’t get it.
Jenni // August 28, 2008 at 9:50 am |
HAHAHA!!!
I cut my oldest’s hair when my nephew told me he looked like a girl.
Catootes // August 28, 2008 at 12:53 pm |
Ha, my son wanted his hair cut when HE thought he looked like a girl. I don’t really care how long a boy’s hair gets but there is difficulty in visualizing the bobby pins holding it back.
CC // August 29, 2008 at 7:31 pm |
I keep my son’s hair nice and short.
But he chooses to wear a lovely dress whenever possible.
It’s pink.
It has a heart on it.
Nuff said.
Reiza // August 31, 2008 at 7:18 pm |
I too wondered if the child could be Jewish. It’s not just Hassidic Jews who don’t cut hair. It’s pretty much any other than Reform and Reconstructionists (although I’ve known a few Reforms who did).
We wanted to wait until 3 (although some wait until Lag B’Omar after the child’s 3rd birthday which in some cases, can make them closer to 4), but my son’s hair got so long and he was miserable. I have friends who went the bobby pin route, but I couldn’t. We don’t live in a Jewish area, so it was pretty foreign to most folks.
We had him called, “She,” so many times.
I’m hoping that if this one is a boy (which I suspect it is), he’ll inherit my hair genes. My hair (and the younger of my twins) grew very slowly. People called me a boy forever. Same with Girl2. TheBoy’s hair was longer at 18 months than Girl2’s was at 3.
Simone // September 12, 2008 at 5:09 pm |
I agree – WTF!!
I agree – It’s got to be the child’s choice unless it is a religious thing.
Our son wants to have long hair like Captain Jack Sparrow. I’d let him, but it is so thick, it is becoming a pain to fix.
stephanie // May 10, 2009 at 12:20 pm |
My son is 5 and has long hair below his shoulders I always use barrettes in his hair almost everyday, he picks most of them out himself. They are HAIR accessories not girl accessories. Not sure why everyone has such a hard time with this.
Jenny // May 18, 2009 at 4:17 pm |
I’m a hairdresser and I have a few moms that keep their boys hair long and do seem to want them to look like girls. They probably wanted daughters!